” The poem of my love”

One autumn morn, a desperate girl, does a trick,
My feelings fell for her like she tugged the right brickimg_6392
She called my name that voice feels so immune
My ear drinks each word of her like a magical tuneimg_6393
Born, the smell of love as a thought in one’s brain,
that binds us together in a mystic chain.img_6394
That upsetness, when from my little world, ” she fled”
with a fatigued heart, the missing nights not slept.img_6395
But when sat alone, my intelligence glow
it said, ” oh! mind, forget sorrow and leave all the woe .img_6396
You’ve heard,”all that glitter’s aren’t gold
alike it, familiar to ear, this too written in bold!!img_6397

You know it’s love, a kind of whine
that has all ingredients, whether, dim or shine
and so they wrote with blood,” LOVE IS DIVINEimg_6398

The deadline trick implementation” (Life changing article)

This my friends is the second part of the article The deadline trick if you haven’t read yet go through the link.
I ended my previous article with…
You might think, to have this kind of mindset, in reality  ,is too hard. it’s almost impossible. let me tell you something.
It is possible

It’s not the first time you’d go through this transition. Mortality, although the greatest reminder of the value of time, isn’t the only one.

YOU HAVE DONE IT ALREADY

You’ve gone through this personal evolution before, you just don’t remember it anymore, because you achieved what you wanted.
Think of the time when you lost a job, and you had to find a new one as soon as possible. Were you concern about dating that day? or watching your favorite television show?
Think of the time when you faced an emergency, and the only priority, your only focus that day was to solve that problem no matter what.
Were you thinking about going to a nightclub then?

Think of the time when you were preparing for a competition and there was no other option but to destroy the scores and guarantee your admission in that college or program. Were you hanging out with your friends and just wasting time?
Think of the time when for the first time you saw the opportunity you had been waiting for your entire life. What did you do that evening?
Did you not prepare? Did you not abandon every single plan you had with anybody until you made sure that opportunity was yours?
On that day, you knew what you wanted and where you were. So you locked yourself up, told every single distraction to f–k off, and functioned on that level of consciousness.
You’ve already done it, only on a much smaller scale. This time you need to do it on a magnitude that will change the entire course of your life and permanently set you on another level.

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

So what are you waiting for? keep your phone down, sit alone with yourself and ask, what if you only have 12 months to live?
Focus on this Dead line of thought until you have gained the consciousness, ask yourself:
What are my true gifts? What is that one thing I always wanted to learn? what is that thing I always wanted to do?
Bring it back. Stop running away from your true, unique, beautiful self.
In your attempts to mingle in the crowds, somewhere you abandoned the things that made you unique, that separated you from others.
And if during this process you are reminded of your failures, about the possibility that might have wasted a lot of your time, or there aren’t enough opportunities.

MOVE ON

Move on. Focus only on the 12 months ahead of you. That is your life now. That is all the time you have. And nothing else matters.

I hope you liked the article, And I promise you if you approach the future with this mindset, you will conquer any goal in your life.
I hope you will subscribe to this blog, there are a lot of motivational and informative articles coming only and only for you.
Thank you.

“The deadline trick” (Life changing article)

It was late night when I rushed to the balcony next to when I updated my Whatsapp status with “am busy writing.” I often do same when I have plans in my mind for my next article.
on the second minute before I was about to finish my coffee I heard a laughing ,giggling guffaw voice of the sons of our neighbor from the window, next to our balcony. This left me with a weird thought; how are they so happy? I am of the same age but why are we so different? what was that mistake I did in my past which made me this depressed, broken and hopeless? What was that one thing which I shouldn’t have done, What is the best way to live the life?

which made me flow this article to you…
If you promise me to stay with me to end of this article I promise you that the moment you would end this article you won’t be the you; “you are now”
What is the best way to live your life?
now, there is no absolute answer to this question. Nobody can tell you the best way to live your life, but yourself.
what I can give you is a prospective.
Imagine if you were told right now you had only a year to live.
12 months from this point on. That is all you have.
Your initial reactions to this would be shock. disbelief, doubt, depression, and then preparation. or in another word, you’ll go through the five stages of grief. After having accepted the fact that you have only 12 months to live, your personality will go through a systematic, miraculous form of evolution almost instantaneously.
And this evolution is what changes the entire diagram of your existence.
In a way, for the first time, you will stop being a part of the society, and conciously take your first step to individuality. which is the separation of your existence from the rest of the world not for the need to be diffrent or recogonized, but because that is its function. And it happens because for the first time you have no other option but to take your life seriously.
So, what is that evolution? Well, after having accepted your mortality, your mind will go through the following changes automatically.
The first thing that happens is all your excuses disappear, regardless of the scheme of actions you’re going to pursue in the future.
All the excuses in your life until now that you have struggled with, never truely cared to solve, and unconsciously made a part of your personality get surgically removed from your brain as if they never existed. For the first time in your life, you’re truely blessed with the focus shared by the greatest minds, and you haven’t even chosen the yet.
Second, you’re blank. All your past , consisting of stupid mistakes, habits, memories and regrets gets deleted.
You now look forward to creating great memories with people who truely matter in your life.
All your crushes, grudges, memories and tears and lies and pain, none of that shit matters anymore. you forget and move on within a second.
Third, you discover priorities. Your mind absolutely builds a list of people, actions, activities, practices, customs, and habits you need to dispose of.
Fourth, you’re not looking forward to gallivanting with your friends anymore or performing your daily rituals which are basically creating replicas of yesterday.
If you think about it, each day in your life is exactly the same. But now for the first time, you’re not worried or insecure about your girlfriend anymore.you’re not uncomfortable or jealous if some guy is talking to the girl you have a crush on. You recognize that all these things are distractions. You’re not looking forward to that party you were supposed to attend, or frequenting night clubs, or drinking with your buddies. That is all trivial shit.
Your mind acknowledges and separates the people of importance from the crowd you have gathered over the year.
And as your mind figures out the things you want to do, you know very clearly what do you want to do – which makes all the greatest difference. What you want will eventually come to you, you just have to cut off triviality and you will meet focus, and focus will grab you through various distractions and lead you directly to your destination.
Fifth, you are vigilant. The days in your life aren’t divided by weekdays and weekends anymore. Each morning will be different and separate from the other. Each day will be an opportunity that brings you closer to your dreams.
From this day on, you won’t be waiting for opportunities anymore but seizing moments to create them.
Sixth, You are reminded of your legacy, What are you leaving behind to those who love you, those dependent on you, and those whom you cherish?
You ask yourself, what would I be remembered for?
seventh, you make settlements with the villainy that surrounds you, with all the losers that have bothered you and brought you down for too long. You’re no long bound by the threads of superficial relationships, artificial people, and obligatory acquaintances. You have been librated of all influence, you’re unaffected by criticism – negative or positive. You are free from human indulgence.
Eighth, You accept and appreciate the love. And it;s not selfish love anymore. It’s purest, most incorruptible form of love that flows in the direction of those whom you love without hesitation, without question. And you know they love you too, and never ceased to support you. They are those who see grace and beauty where others saw flaws and imperfections.
And it is in this moment you choose their love instead of chasing and finding and hoping to somehow control, impress or convince some stranger to fall in love with you.
Ninth, You seek happiness rather than joy. You finally recognize the distinction your brain chose to ignore while living under the illusion of ampleness of time. And when faced with a choice, you appreciate indulging in happiness rather than seeking joy, because joy although attributed to bringing happiness is a short-lived; and the things that define the meaning of your life are not.
There is a reason why when Keats wrote, “a thing of beauty is a joy forever,” he added forever at the end, because joy is momentary.
Once you understand this distinction, you don’t run after one night stands, flings, or short-lived dalliances. You don’t seek to repeat moments of joy by augmenting your drug usage, by indulging in social gatherings more, or from petty ego boosts in forms of compliments.
Lastly, you realize that you are complete. You don’t need any other person to reassure of your greatness, your legendary status, your awesomeness. You’re a titan. you’re not in a fight with competition anymore.
With this level of self-awareness and consciousness, you’re not a part of the crowd. You’re not in a fight against humans. You’re out there to make a name for yourself, you’re gonna take down gods.
That’s who you are, you’re a f–king titan. remember that.
Challenge your mortality and all that is important to you will come to you naturally.
Now just imagine if you lived with this level of consciousness every single day, what won’t you accomplish?
All you need to do is, constantly ask yourself, urge yourself to believe that you have only 12 months in your hands.
Get into the mindset, and once you do, you will experience the evolution I have laid out.
How many times in a day do you remind yourself that very soon, in comparison to the infinite scope of time, you will die!
And before dying, you will experience a phenomenon known as being old. So the only time when you will ever be the most efficient is now.
In about 20 years, you will be half as efficient as you are right now.
If you don’t act now, in about 10 years, all the opportunities you have in your hands will be reduced to half.
I cannot go back to school so I can be a geologist, physicist, cosmologist, molecular biologist, or anything of that sort, because that ship sailed a long time ago. The only option I am left with is to blame someone.
Blaming is one of the most pointless activities available to humans.
So, are you going to wait for that experience where you faced that eventually and are left with nothing but to pick someone to blame or are you going to avoid that experience altogether it’s your choice.
You might think, to have this kind of mindset in reality is too hard. it’s almost impossible.
Well no!
It is possible..
which again brings me to my next article How to implement this in your brain (The deadline trick implementation)
which would be posted in 6 hours next to this article.

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“LOVE” | The masked side

“She slept with him, I have  been cheated.”  My life is devastated,

 what do I do now?  Death would be a better preference than to live now without her.  I broked up.

Introducing you to  Love | The masked side.

This is  Feb when the love rains but fails to wash the masked side of your love.

You might be in love or you might have a crush, you could be in teenage an ideal time for puppy love, you might be married or you could be a blazing, flaming heart in one-sided love.
It makes no difference who you are, Everyone  had been  someday or sometime in love and must be  apprised to  its pro and cons both

In our society , many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.
This Example might make some difference in your life.

Hello, I am a murdered soul,
very alike everyone  I was once in my school days,  life was easy, immature well yet I never felt this at that time. Everything was pleasant, straightforward, painless, manageable and simplified before I got to know a girl, she was  beautiful ,attractive and this was the first time  my heart was blooming for a weird reason which  concluded
By fair means or foul  we got to know each other and slipped off in love,
Throughout this alluring journey of our relationship we had several ups and down.
similar to you all, I am also possessive,”yes I stop her “

Never wanted anyone to spot her, not even a glimpse.

Prevented her presence in parties, prevented her to have a conversation with other guys.
I was so unfortunate that although I love to see her in the western dress I never allowed her to wear.

You can call me conservative, pervert, orthodox, cheap, dominant, worst human.

And she left him(broked up).

Now I’m not sad because she left me, I’m just not happy because I can never leave her.

 

“The masked side”
His girlfriend once told him to stay away from girls
she said, “she is afraid to loose him.” She cries for him and is afraid to lose her love, so she did everything he wanted.

 

Fear is a terrible emotion you know, He is afraid to loose her which made restrictions and she follows it because she is afraid to loose him.

well, who has the more acute fear?

 

She very well knows no girl can force him physically when her guy is out alone.
she knows girls very rarely take hold of the first attempt to her crush.

She knows god made us this way that males would mostly try hard to get a female even in animals.

She knows he can protect himself, there isn’t any trouble on his dignity

On the other side?

He knows she deserves freedom but he doesn’t want her to go alone he is afraid about her safety as she cannot protect herself practically and he can’t wait for any wrong to happen.
He knows she deserves to wear anything, yet he is again afraid she might get the wrong attention which in a result is a trouble.
He knows he isn’t there to shield her all the time which again revert to,”No are only allowed to go out with someone.

And she left him finally with no second thought how would that soul live

 

She never understood why? Never understood he must have had more painful fear.

Instead of calling him conservative she could have made up things comfortable.

“Not her fault, human nature. We prefer buying new rather than repairing.

 

Hang on! Someone else too wants to meet you.

Hello, I am another murdered soul
very alike, everyone, I was in my college days, life was exciting full of curiosity, there was no horizon of my dreams, joys, and fun.

Everything was pleasant, straightforward, painless, manageable and simplified before I got to know a boy, He was  handsome, each attractive and this was the first time  my heart was blooming for a weird reason which  concluded by fair means or foul  we got to each other and slipped off in love,

Everything was wonderful since we started to have insecurities later and common arguments that generally happens.

Being a human I too made a mistake,  I got close to another guy and started to trust him and we used to hang out, one night we were drunk and mistakenly I slept with him.
I was guilty, that feeling of sorrow started to consume my heart in regression. I used to love my guy eternally so I told him everything seeking for his forgiveness.
…he left me as he found me waiting and bruised, but now also willing and broken. I shakily tend my wounds, mystified if I had flown or fallen.

 

The masked side

Well, to understand it better let us assume we have two parts in our heads.
MIND and INTELLIGENCE

My mind says I want to smoke a cigaret, he begs am addicted feed me, while  intelligence says, “no it will kill you in future it’s harmful.”

This is the reason why we smoke, just because I feel like smoking my mind says to smoke and despite we know our addiction to regret, difference alcohol, drugs would lead to death. We do!

Similarly,

There are no differences in our sister and girlfriends, both of them have the same body, same organs, same hairs , she is  capable of doing same things that your girlfriend could do, anatomically they are same but what is the reason behind this, that hugging your sister and hugging your girlfriend have two different feels and stimulation??

Its because here our intelligence comes into play, it  distinguishes about this is your sister and that is your girlfriend.

Keeping this in mind,

I have question for you.

why do we flirt?

With no second thought why do we start to mack on everytime?  

why do we keep searching for new body?

When we know we have a wife or girlfriend at home she has the same thing same capabilities that the girls out side have then why do we flirt , we cheat, we go to them? Despite we know it would only result in break up, divorce as truth never hides,  just because our mind says, we do! We will flirt!

 

Aforementioned,

A guy leaves her girlfriend , because she slept with someone, or may be she has kissed someone, she hugged someone..beacuse she made any mistakes or probably you found someone better.

I want you to ask this, “Have your mom or dad every told you am leaving you? , because you made any mistake , did they say I have found other more intelligent and  rich so I love that other son or daughter? “
No, they will still love you and would try to make you better,
There is only one love that exists, and that’s parental love.
I would forgive her every mistake , I would protect her from everything no matter what am being called, I have made  my love so strong that I would even forgive her if she would sleep with anyone.

Because, my friends

There is something above body .. (Body se upar bhi koi cheez hoti hai)

Not every thing is judged on the basis of her body, there is something that is above the body and am here with her for that something.

What about you?

The day you will understand this you will develope the unconditional, unselfish purest form of love. Which actualy is a parental love.
My love for her is parental!

No matter how bad she falls, breaks,  I would reach to that trash to piece her back.
Society might judge you on your body, society might call you a dude to boy with group of girls and slut to a girl with group of boys

Similar to like , a lock that can be opened by any key is called as useless, and a key that can open every lock is called as master key. But the truth is there is no difference in between them. One is threat to your house, other is threat to others house.
Hello , I am a murdered soul

there is something left that I forgot to tell you,
“Do you know why am murder and who I am?”

I am you!
Your soul have been murdered.
You want to live, I want to live…. Please!

 

This feb,  filter your love with this masked side.
Thank you

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“How to get the first investment on any business idea?”

We all seem to be getting more self-obsessed by the day. Turn on your tv or open a web browser, and narcissism hits you smack in the face – everything screams ME! ME! ME!
Now this me that brought you here might help you.

So as I assured you previously here’s another article followed by my previous article “LOOSER”.

 

Well, my fellow readers let straight hop into the subject we’re here to talk about.I have a firm hunch about you people are already having that perfect idea for your startup business, if you are here reading this article. So how do we ignite that idea? when have we no resource, money, funds?
No worries, buckle up when you are done with this article.

Next to my Perfect idea which I had once in my mind, somehow I managed to get my uncle’s interest which led to the initial investment in my startup. Later that business failed either by hook or by crook no matter whatever was the reason behind failure, you know the worst part when a business fails?  Yeah, of course, the loss of money yet its more painful and outrageous when you make the loss of others money and trust.

 

Which in result made me understand about the peace of mind in having your own investment.
Its always better and burden free when you use your own money, let me know in comments what you think about this to give me a better prospective.
Anyway,  the question continues, “how do we get our own money”?

The good news is no matter how much annoyed we are to our government, our system, and to our country sometimes, however there’s still a scheme that can be availed from the government which may be yet hidden to you.

Next to when I lost hope, absentmindedly browsing over internet, I got to know about a kind of loan that government offers,  which is uncomplicated to avail.

 

But due to of the lack of exact knowledge as I was excited and thrilled of with this new hope to start all over again my business, I just rushed to it.
You must have heard a known quote i.e.;  “Little knowledge is dangerous”

Didn’t get me?

Need an example?

Well have you ever met into an incident where you went into your kitchen where you found  A dish ,it could be anything, was  frying over an on the move, in nobody’s supervision  and you didn’t turn it off thinking mom have put it for some reason. While after staring at it you have no idea whether its cooked enough or not.

and later after a while you get to know it caught fire and damaged a little part of your Kitchen?

well if you would have the knowledge about how that dish is being cooked you would have turned it off assuming   its done and is  being over cooked now , like you have the knowledge about when milk is boiled and you turn it off on right time..
would you have let it turned  on if it was milk instead?

No!
this exactly what it means  by “little knowledge is  dangerous!
Okay I accept that was a boring example!!

 

Similarly, I was been frauded with a group of people who claimed to get me the loan.
Which know brings me to a “NOTE”!!!
Only apply it on official websites

Now lets talk about

  • What is this loan?
  • How to apply for this?
  • What are the eligibility?
  • What does it cost to get it sanctioned??
  • Risks?

“What is this loan”?

Considering the unemployment as the major issue issue in India government has launched this scheme

Called “Prime Minister Generation Program” (P.M.E.G.P)  which allowes you to get your business loan from the government in an easy 15 days with minimal documentation and with lowest interest rate up to 4% giving you time 3 to 10 years to return it back.

 

“How to apply this”

Ah, its as easy as creating a facebook account. Okay okay!,  a little more descriptive form but.

That’s it , you are ready to go.

 

“What are eligibilities”?

  • You must be 18 years old or above
  • Must be at least viii pass. (yes! you read it right, just 8th pass!)
  • can obtain this scheme once in a lifetime
  • must be a citizen of India

that’s minimum eligibility

other detailed eligibility Conditions of Beneficiaries are:-

  • There will be no income ceiling for assistance for setting up projects under PMEGP.
  • For setting up of project costing above Rs.10 lakh in the manufacturing sector and above Rs. 5 lakh in the business /service sector, the beneficiaries sho/div>
  • Self Help Groups (including those belonging to BPL provided that they have not availed benefits under any other Scheme) are also eligible for assistance under PMEGP.
  • Institutions registered under Societies Registration Act,1860;
  • Production Co-operative Societies, and Charitable Trusts.

Existing Units (under PMRY, REGP or any other scheme of Government of India or State Government) and the units that have already availed Government Subsidy under any other scheme of Government of India or State Government are not eligible.

That just sounds scary but its too simple as you get into it.

trust me, as I have researched myself and went for a loan to its regional office.

let me know if you want me to share you my experience what exactly happened with step by step guide what to do.

Refer to the Download section in the menu of my blog for screenshot view of how to fill in the form and where to find it on official website of PMEGP

which again brings me to my next upcoming article.
“how many days will it take to get your PMEGP loan”? 

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Didn’t get me? 
Need another boring example? :’)

 

 

 

“LOOSER”

“I know I don’t have money but I have a great idea for business,’ he chanted”
“Son! We aren’t rich enough to spare the price of risk on your idea,’ His dad retorted”.

(In a remorseful voice)  “Dad, not everyone is brilliant or sharp enough to crack any competition exams for a good job. I tried my best I wish to own a business now. I know I didn’t study on time, devastated my school days and have lost my grip on the basic knowledge yet this doesn’t bring me to the end. I haven’t conceded defeat.”

“Followed by an anxious silence his dad grumbled,’ you haven’t perceived the world yet and that the business isn’t so easy, go back to your room and try to study, don’t waste your time on such ideas!
Welcome readers today we all are assembled here to show and share our views on one of the most important aspects of human life that is nothing but the question. “Why should we take our first step to head towards our dream right now”.

So, don’t forget to share your views in comments. Feedbacks would be appreciated.

So, what is that one compelling reason due to of which you begged your fortune to spare you success?  Why do you wanna be successful, why do you wanna earn money, what makes you think you need a position in society?
Well, this rely on person to person, Sprinkle of peoples are just simply too poor to fulfill their basic needs, other have been erased, assassinated with the taunts of their knowns (so called well-wisher). Some have to lead themselves with the sorrowful mind as they have love relationships which can only breathe and survive if somehow they cope to settle down with good income and bright growthful future in order to get marry, some are tired of spending each day as a replica of their previous day, worthlessly. I believe most of you are already having that compelling reason that makes you think I NEED TO MAKE A CHANGE.

But those who don’t give a damn despite researching what special in me, who accepted the fact of being a “LOOSER”, who finds their path gloomy. My dear friends, I want you to assume this;

Let’s take an example of a girl,

similar to every ordinary child she too was born and grew up, she too had a curious mind followed by her colorful dreams, those dreams could be anything, it could be a wish to sight different cities or states or to learn swimming may be to sing or either to buy an iPhone whatever she dreams she expect that to be fulfilled by her dad.

She thought all heroes were tall, muscular and wore a cape.

“Your daughter’s old enough now, get her married, “the elders said.

“No she wants to study more,” her dad replied.

In her pot-bellied, balding and diabetic father, she found a hero of a different kind.

But no matter how much he loves her daughter he isn’t rich enough to fill her all dreams, she just wasted her young age working in the kitchen.

Now, she has grown enough, it’s time for her marriage, now she have another expectation of a better life she hope inside herself of living again this time with her husband that he will fulfill all her dreams she will watch the world with him, and unfortunately she gets a poor husband who hardly could manage the expense of their house.

Well, now she has compromised with her life she has become a mother now she needs to think about her children yet she is still working in the kitchen.

The last hope is now her children that they would study, they would be a better person they would fill her all dreams they would help her live a better life.

These are the three phases of a girl’s life.

Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to close your laptop, mobile,pc  after you are finished with this article and watch your mom today in the kitchen of your house, Do you really want this wonderful gift of god to spend all her life in that 4/4 kitchen??  Her life started from the kitchen and ended to the kitchen!
Does she really deserve this in return of all love and affection she gave you?

How many years now is left in her life span?  You want to be more late to get the train to your goals? You want to be later in establishing yourself and giving her that live?

“You mean now you wanna shift that LOOSER tag to your mom?”
Of course, she is the LOOSER then, after devoting all her life in serving she got a kitchen.

Don’t be so late I know you have tried enough and tired but my friend if you are tired you need to rest not to give up.

Your friends must have got a brilliant brain, must have got a good gob must be earning a lac per month, you consider that as a successful life yes?

it’s a kind of happiness if he wishes to buy a Land rover, He needs to save his salaries for may b 6 -7 month neglecting all his other basic requirement and in order to buy that car.

It’s another kind of happiness when you go out, you see a car (land rover) and you buy it right at that moment
there is a lot of difference in both of this happiness.

Which happiness you want??

Let’s relate this to our first example of the girl (your mom)

Have seen your mom she went out to market she likes lots of things but she thinks before buying them, don’t you want her to go out and buy whatever she likes at that very instance?
Business is the way to this second happiness!

Don’t end up your day with the same tag on your head, ‘’LOOSER’’

Now the question is how?

We don’t have the money to start our idea or business.

We are ready to work hard but we have no idea how?

How will I put that first investment? Who would help me out for this first investment?

Well, I have a way out, through which each and every one of you could get that initial amount to start your business even if you have zero balance.

Refer to my next article about

“How to get the first investment for any new idea of our business?”

It would be posted soon by this week itself.

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I see something in you!

You and I are not very different from this flower. Just like this flower is unique, you are unique. All of us have something special that makes us as beautiful. Do you know what makes you special?

Now the answer to that can be a little difficult of find, because sometimes life has a cruel way of picking out your petals, breaking you in two and throwing you into the trash. Now when you’re broken, it’s very difficult to feel special.

Mr./miss reader, my fellow flowers. I can remember the first time I broke. I was seventeen years old. I had already flunked high school and managed to get myself arrested. Now, I wasn’t afraid of the cops, but there was one person I was very afraid of and that was my mama. Raise your hand if you had an emotional mother. Let me see. Put them all together you get my mama. I can hear her scream outside the police station. Even the cops were afraid. She came up to me, held the iron bars, looked into my eyes and I saw a tear coming down her face.

Now I’ve seen my mama crying before, but mothers cry three types of tear: tears of joy, tears of sorrow and tears of shame. And when a son sees a mother cry tears of shame, that’s a life changing moment. She looked at me and said “son, I want to be a better man”. That night when I drove home my dad was waiting for me at home. Now my dad is a cool dad. Raise your hand if you have a cool dad. Put them all together you get my dad. My dad came up to me and said “son it’s okay. You flunked your exams. You already got arrested. That’s fine. You get that from your mother side. I want you to start working immediately”. And I said, okay.

So my dad took me to meet one his friends called Sam. Now, Sam was an accountant who had an accounting firm and had generously decided to make me his personal assistant and there he was. He looked like a teddy bear, but this man was special. I looked at him and he looked at me and then he said the most amazing thing. He said “son, I see something in you, but I don’t know what it is. If you decide to work with me, I can help you find that something”. And I was like, wow, that’s the first time in my whole life somebody has ever told they see something in me and I started working for Sam. And everyday after work he used to tell me stories about the world, about history, about culture, about philosophy and it was much more interesting than what I learned in school. And I discovered I can dream and I started dreaming, ladies and gentleman. After one year I went back into high school, completed my exams and went into college.

After successfully completing college I found a great girl, but not a job. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. Have you ever had that problem? And when you’re lost it’s difficult to feel special. So I went back to my cool dad and I said “dad, I feel lost”. He said, “you are like your mother.” So my dad introduced me to this strange club that had a strange name, with strange people – talking.

 Do You Know What Makes You Special?

On the first meeting they told me to do something called a table topic. I aced it! But while I was speaking I see a strange man seated in the back row, humble, simple, the unfailing quality of kindness in his eyes. As soon I finished he walked up to me, looked me dead straight in the eye and said, “son, I see something in you, but I don’t know what it is. If you come here twice a month maybe we can find that something.”

And ladies and gentlemen, I discovered I could speak and I love speaking and that led me to become a teacher. I know what it’s like to not have enough money in your bank account. I know what it’s like to worry when the bills start coming in. And sometimes in the middle of the night I wake up my beautiful wife and ask her “honey, why did you marry me?” She says, “I saw something in you, but I still I don’t know what it is?”

And Then

Ladies and gentleman today I’m a dreamer, I’m a speaker and I learned the unfailing quality of unconditional love from my wife.

I was broken and I’ve been broken, lost and broke many times in my life, but the people in my life were able to reach into the trash can and make me whole again. If it was up to me, I would have never been able to do that. And this is why if you have great people in your life no matter how broke, how lost or how broken you become they can piece you back together.

Ladies and gentleman, when I look at you I see something in you, but I don’t know what it is? Over to you.